If you come across a bride to be, or you are one yourself, you can bet that probably 95% of the thoughts in her head are about wedding plans. There are so many variables, and so many questions to be answered. There’s so much advance planning needed when you get married, that people need books to keep track of it all – if not to hire a wedding planner to do it all for them. If you’re a bride, chances are there are so many thoughts in your head about your to-do list, that you have to ask yourself every once in a while, “What’s this bride thinking?”
Aside from all the basic church, reception hall, music, decorations stuff, there are also many rules of etiquette to keep in mind. What does the maid of honor do? For what is the best man responsible? Where will the groom’s divorced father and his new family sit at the ceremony? How can the bride make sure weird Uncle Charlie does not wear something that will make him the butt of awkward jokes and whispers at the wedding reception? You get the idea.
It’s no wonder that the average bride can turn into a bridezilla. Her stress levels and blood pressure are going through the roof. Her hormones are probably on overdrive. She probably has a full-time job, as well as full responsibility for all household chores and cooking. Combine all of that with the lack of time that most of us feel anyway, giving into bad eating habits, and lack of exercise. It can definitely all put a big strain on the happy couple to be. When the poor bride then has to factor in the opinions of her parents and her parents-in-law, it can sometimes make a frazzled bride’s head (almost) explode!
Probably one of the best things a bride can do for herself is to prevent unnecessary thinking or worrying. A good strategy for dealing with all the responsibilities helps a lot. Successful people, who have a lot of responsibilities, know the value of creating a vision and then making a step by step plan from that vision. Where do you want to be in 12 months? What do you need to do to get there? How can you break those actions down into steps that you can take on a daily, weekly and monthly basis? What milestones can you set to make sure you’re still on the right track and moving along at the right pace? All of these things are important to keep your life as stress free as possible. It’s also essential to make sure you set aside time for yourself and for your fiancé.
If you can’t make time for yourself, your relationships will suffer. Don’t be afraid to ask your friends, your parents, your fiancé and his family for help. Learning how to delegate and trusting that other people can do an adequate job of accomplishing tasks are also very important qualities in life.
